#SoberOctober Day 15 – Don’t stop me now

At day 15 you are just shy of 50% complete your challenge. You may be getting a second wind, or you may feel like the winds are pushing against you. The pressure inside, both physical and mental might be building up now that your body is realizing this experiment in abstinence is longer lived than anticipated.

This is exactly why you shouldn’t give up.

The pressure is what makes coal in to a diamond. Adapting to pressure is what differentiates good from great. When you hear about how it’s “Not the journey, it’s the destination” this is what they are talking about.

If you’ve been putting off self-care, now would be a great time to start. Yoga, meditation and gratitude can sound like fairly-tale magic until you get to a point where nothing else seems like a viable option. Here is where the pressure gets turned up, and coping tools are the release valve.

Don’t give up now!

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#SoberOctober Day 14 – An Open and Honest Dialog

Sobriety can be a scary thing. In my experience, everyone reacts to fear differently. One common way to deal with fear is dishonesty. If you’re afraid of the consequences of your actions, you might just lie to cover your tracks. We keep secrets from loved ones to protect them from the truth. We lie to ourselves to protect our ego.

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#SoberOctober Day 13 – Waking Up to Smell the Coffee

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When I was drinking heavily, coffee* was a desperate cure. I could not get it fast enough, and no amount of coffee would make me feel like a human again. Still, I would drink as much of it as I could, thinking it would cure my hangover and give me some feeling of normality after a night drinking alcohol.

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#SoberOctober Day 12 – Weekend once again

So what have you learned so far? It’s hard to quit drinking? It’s easy to quit drinking? You miss the beverage? Or maybe you miss the social experience? Whatever it is that is bugging or not bugging you lately, you can push that aside thinking about how you’ve almost hit 2 weeks without alcohol. It’s impressive enough to say no to a drink once, but it’s a whole other thing once you’ve said it 5 or 6 times.

You may start to think “If I can make it 12 days, do I really have to prove I can go all month?” or “If I can go twelve days this easily, I never really had a problem in the first place”. This type of self talk isn’t wrong or taboo, it can be dangerous, but on your journey you will have many conversations with yourself and others about this very thing.

If you’re coming up against questions like this, perhaps it’s time to go over a few of the reasons you wanted to quit in the first place. Revisit the pros and cons list, and add new ones that you’ve discovered in the past twelve days. You’re also not quite at half-way, so if you can’t even make it half-way… maybe you DO have a problem…

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#SoberOctober Day 11 – You Can’t Go Back, But You Can Go Forward

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If you’ve made it this far, I’m hoping you’re feeling good about this challenge. It’s my hope that Sober October is a gateway to an overall betterment of you as a person. The same way I used Sober October to push myself to quit for good, I want others to find what they are looking for, and succeed in their goals.

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#SoberOctober Day 10 – What to do?

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What should you do with your time now that you’re not drinking? Going to the bar to hang-out is stressful and can be fairly boring. Sitting at home alone is even worse. What you must find is an activity, that distracts you from alcohol while giving you a purpose.

Here’s a list of fun things to try when you’re trying to shake the feeling that you might drink out of sheer boredom.

  • Learn to play an instrument
  • Make an online dating profile (look for other sober singles)
  • Volunteer with a local non-profit
  • Learn chess
  • Take up painting
  • Go to a yoga class
  • Meditate (go to a class or use an app)
  • Write/Journal
  • Ride, run or go play a sport (skip the after game beers)
  • Go to the library
  • Hit the steam room at your local gym
  • Listen to some poetry at a coffee shop

Sure, this advice is pretty generic and probably sounds boring if you’re used to partying all night. It’s generic because I want everyone to see this list and understand the sheer number of things people do when they aren’t drinking. The world is full of amazing places that don’t serve alcohol, and making these places a part of your life can make it better.

Know that life can seem boring at times, and that’s OK. Being bored gives you a chance to sit, think and feel. Give yourself the permission to do something ordinary like reading a book at the library. The more joy you can derive from simple pleasures, the less you will need to rely on alcohol to give you that same feeling of joy.

#SoberOctober Day 9 – Keeping your head above the water

While some self-help authors and speakers preach a system of tapping in to your inner superhero, I take a more laid-back approach. I don’t think that any of us are particularly super, and I don’t think you can quit drinking by doing power-poses, positive thinking, or self-confidence alone. Alcoholism is a serious issue and treating it like the protagonist in a Marvel movie isn’t fair to those who struggle with it every day.

If you’re anything like me, at this point you may be barely keeping you head above the water. Neither going forwards or back, sinking or pulling yourself out, just staying the course. This is not the bad thing some make it out to be. Consider a functional alcoholic that is the head of a Fortune 500 company… on paper they may be moving 100 km/h and progressing their career in a way that makes them look like a real winner. Below the surface, there is a different story, one that doesn’t usually have the happiest of endings.

For us regular people, we can hold our heads high. Even if our chins are barely out of the water, and we wish we could start swimming toward our goals. We can take comfort in knowing that the longer we keep our heads dry, the stronger we become. The stronger we become the easier it will be to start the stroke that takes us from treading water, to swimming.

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#SoberOctober Day 8 – Giving Thanks

Here in Canada, today happens to be Thanksgiving. A day off of work to eat a giant meal with family is usually the type of thing where beer and wine flow freely, but for those of us who abstain it can be a mine-field of drama. Don’t feel bad about avoiding drunk relatives by taking frequent autumnal walks, or by being the sober person that can drive a few extra minutes to grab a few groceries at the one open store that’s across town.

Even if you don’t celebrate a holiday in early October, it’s still a good time to give thanks. Gratitude, prayer, meditation and mindfulness are techniques to help deal with the mental challenges that are sometimes associated with sobriety. Writing down, or saying out-loud all of the things that actually make your life worth living is a great way to remind yourself why you wanted to quit drinking in the first place.

So why not give some thanks? Unlike buying a round of drinks for your buddies, giving away thanks is completely free!

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#SoberOctober Day 7 – A Week Down

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You’re officially a week down! No matter when you’re reading this, you’ve survived at least most of a weekend, for us in 2018 it’s Sunday so this post is going to be a bit of a rest. This is because rest is extremely important for your recovery. More than just a challenge of your willpower, quitting drinking for any amount of time is hard on your emotions, and mental capacity.

If you’ve been journalling, going to meetings, exercising and distracting yourself for the past week, you deserve some time to breathe. Quitting alcohol is a challenge, but it doesn’t need to feel like running a marathon. The only thing that you need to do to be sober is to NOT DRINK alcohol, so as long as you are doing that much, you’re winning.

So consider cheating on your diet a little, sleeping in, or skipping a gym session. Pray, meditate and take it easy. You’re doing great and you can being week 2 with more energy than if you had kept sprinting through today like a racehorse.

Not feeling strong enough to break your routine? That’s ok too! Do what YOU need to do, don’t listen to me if it doesn’t feel right.

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